An open question

I'm a bit hesitant to post this, because I (like most of my community) am painfully ignorant of the important details that characterize the experiences of people who deal with Autism Spectrum Disorders. I am not trying to pin any person or group of people to any set of generalized symptoms, and I will try my utmost to tread carefully.

I once had a friend (I have since lost touch with him) with Asperger Syndrome, and I knew that because he told me himself. He described his experience as akin to being in a room that was lined with television sets all playing different things. He said (truthfully) he had an incredibly high-functioning brain, but that the constant sensory stimulation caused by merely existing was overwhelming. He had no filters on input, and maybe because of this, he did not filter his speech through empathy or kindness. I never met anyone more direct, and it was a little bit unnerving. Other people who knew him said that he was "creepy," but I didn't ever really see that.

In The Catcher in the Rye, I have been been aware of Holden Caulfield behaving very similarly to my old friend. Quick and direct with insults, compliments, and criticism, and seeming to not make much differentiation between the positive and negative. Holden Caulfield also has a disregard for the opinions of the people in his society that is familiar from past conversations.

My friend seemed convinced--and told me on a number of occasions--that he was not a good person, but neither was he a bad person. In his own words, "No, I'm not a good person. But I'm a decent person. I'm a decent guy." Somehow I can imagine Holden Caulfield saying that, if he deigned to talk at all.

Salinger wrote his famous novel long before Autism Spectrum Disorders had been classified and named, but they were around then too. It seems possible to me that his character might have been dealing with a condition that he couldn't begin to analyze from a medical perspective, but that would come to be called Asperger Syndrome. How likely is it?

I would like to pursue this conversation because I find it fascinating, but it deserves respect. Please treat it with that respect. I have dear friends who go through hell because of this kind of thing, and I don't want to spark more hate and misunderstanding.

Asshole?

My Coming-of-Age Novel class has just started to read The Catcher in the Rye by J. D. Salinger, and last night I found myself in a friendly argument about the character merit of Holden Caulfield. My friend had read the book before, and her first reaction was something along the lines of "Great book and good writing, but the main character was an asshole!" The following conversation can be condensed as follows:

"I kind of like him, even if he is an asshole. I think I'd like to be friends with him."

"I don't know, man, I think I'd just punch him in the nose."

"But I have some friends who are a lot like him, and I do genuinely like them."

"That says more about your taste in friends than anything else."

"Maybe."

...And we left it at that. I got to thinking, though, about what it is that puts Holden Caulfield on her bad side. He's certainly no shining exemplar of morality, nor does he mince words when he's not pleased with something. Still, his words are directed at us (the readers) and he seems to be much--for lack of a better word--nicer in person than he makes himself out to be. He is judgmental in the extreme, and he holds humanity to a ridiculous set of standards that he doesn't bother to live out himself. Doesn't that go for most of us privileged adolescents who are trying to work out our own value systems. Just because I get irritated when people intersperse their dialogue with the word "like" doesn't mean I don't find myself doing, like, the same thing on occasion. I'm not one to judge.

Which, I suppose, is one difference between me and Holden Caulfield. If he didn't think he were one to judge, he wouldn't be narrating such a goddamn rude novel.

I do think that I'd like him in person, if find him a lot off-the-wall and probably pretty obnoxious too. I'm drawn to the "I don't give a damn about what people think of me" mindset, as well as the drive to live in the moment. Unfortunately, these are both characteristics of a variety of personalities that could be qualified as "assholes." I also think that Holden Caulfield would ever-so-slightly enjoy being called an asshole. Maybe it's this, more than anything else, that draws me to him as a character. Again with the "I don't give a damn." but also a little bit of "I like it that they're thinking of me, though." He does make a point about his dorm-mate Ackley caring enough to pay attention to things, as opposed to his room-mate Stradlater for really not being aware at all. Maybe there's a difference between "giving a damn" and "caring enough to pay attention." I like that idea.

Joyce grows up

My Coming-of-Age-Novel class has finished reading A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man, and the discussion after reading the final chapters mostly revolved around Stephen Dedalus' decision to leave Ireland forever. In class, we naturally talked a lot about the idea of the maturing process, and questioned the nature of Portrait as a bildungsroman.

I drew a comparison between Stephen Dedalus' feeling of being the odd-man-out at the childrens' party portrayed early in the book to his "exile" at the end of the novel. He seems to revel in the former, in a slow, somber way, and looks at the whole tableau as though it must have been pre-ordained. He, the "artistic soul," the "tortured intellect," must have always been set apart in such frivolous situations. He was shown in the earliest chapters to be a scrawny kid, a bit socially awkward, and definitely more thoughtful than his rough-and-tumble classmates. They would've treated him as a bit of an outcast or a loner anyway, and he would've preferred that to taking part in games that could have gotten yet another pair of glasses broken. With kids like that, it's difficult to say whether their propensity toward solitude resulted from or resulted in their peers leaving them alone. Whatever the case, it suits Young Stephen's twisted romanticism quite nicely. He crouches in the corner, eying the girl he can not attract, and thinking very smugly about how mysterious he must look.

The Stephen Dedalus leaving Ireland in the final pages of Portrait is not altogether a different man, but his romanticism has matured along with his ability to express himself. He does not smugly revel, he exalts. He is leaving the nest, taking flight, and embarking upon the road to artistry. I think it is this change which makes Joyce's self-portrait a true bildungsroman. In the beginning of the book, Young Stephen was constantly taking stock of himself as he imagined others must see him. The party scene is a perfect example of this. Stephen is not thinking "Artistic" thoughts, but imagining Emma thinking that he must be thinking "Artistic" thoughts. Terry Pratchett would have considered this phenomenon to be some self-indulgent derivative of second thoughts. Dedalus as a young man is certainly still considering the way he comes across to others, but it is no longer his primary objective to appear worldly and sophisticated. If anything, he feels the need to get away from people who know him as the weirdo in the corner. It is this, more than anything else, that indicates that he has come of age.

All of us lonely together

It seems counter-intuitive to me to christen a new blog with a subject as apparently alienating as loneliness, but it also seems appropriate. My "Coming-of-Age Novel" class is currently busy making its way through James Joyce's A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man, and I know for certain that the moment the Stephen Dedalus became sympathetic character in my mind was during his stay in the infirmary at Clongowes boarding school. He heard the whistle of a train passing by the school, it reminded him of home, and he wished he could be with his mother.

Maybe it was the train that made this moment stick in my mind: I've always loved trains and train whistles, and they make me feel nostalgic. There are so many songs I know about trains, and many of them are blues songs, and they seem very connected to loneliness imagery. "I hear that train a-comin', a-comin' 'round the bend..." or "Freight train, freight train, goin' so fast....I don' know what train I'm on, and I don't know where I'm goin'" If it is the trains, then maybe this moment is only special for people who see trains with that kind of weight. I don't know. Weigh in, if you feel the same way.

Maybe it's the whole picture. Being alone, sick, and far from anyone comforting or familiar is something that anyone who's gotten sick at school can relate to. Putting your head down on the desk under fluorescent light and wanting to go home, but knowing that you aren't really sick enough to go. Or walking down to the office to call home, realizing that they are at work, and being consigned to the padded bench in the nurse's office with dimmed light from the curtain window and a big poster of a grinning toothbrush leering down at you. So very childish, and yet so familiar. (A disclaimer: I know that this is familiar to a relatively miniscule group of people. If it's not familiar to you, I don't mean to offend you. Put my meaning into terms you can work with, if you feel so moved.)

Whatever the case, loneliness is a well-trodden theme in much of classic Western literature. Fair enough, since reading is so largely a solitary activity. I just noticed it particularly here, in the transition from Stephen Dedalus as a binarily-analytical child to an emotive human being.

Part of me still thinks it was the trains.